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We are commemorating International Women's Day (March 8th).
I was recently checking my social networks and I don't know how it hadn't occurred to me to talk about this before, in the music and entertainment industry all the news of the infidelities of some artists with others always leaks. In recent popular culture, there is the case of Shakira and Piqué, Miley and Liam Hemsworth, or the scandal of Karol G, Anuel and Yailin (I know more about the subject than I would like), in fact the world's show business profits excessively from the breakups and the ups and downs of celebrities.
Recently, the artists previously said they released songs in which they talked about how stormy the relationship had been, that they were angry with their ex-partners because they had been unfaithful and how self-love would help them to heal. Many people have supported the content of the songs in the sense that they can see how women can move on without having to beg for love, or tied up for life in a relationship that doesn't bring them happiness, and without paralyzing their lives because the relationship didn't work, however, I have seen a series of comments that allow us to see the sexism that can accompany us in our daily life and that defines us a lot as a Latin American society.
Many comments go from: -they already have to get over it, -how many songs are you going to release about it? -The thing is that if they left it, it was because they (women) were toxic, etc. etc etc So I ask myself: Well, what did they expect? Or, better, I rephrase the question: how were they used to women reacting? I suppose they expected to see them defeated, in their pajamas and with their eyes swollen from crying so much.
If I'm very honest with you, I would have wanted to see that type of
empowered attitude in my adolescence, a woman who goes on with her life,
worrying about her professional success and having enough time to heal the
relationship that left, where she chooses herself as a priority, because let's
be honest the people of my generation received the worst perception of
"romantic love" (which I now think is pure and physical poison). From
childhood to a large part of our adult lives, we were taught that a
relationship had to be for life no matter if it hurt us, that a woman should
sacrifice part of what she was for the man "of her life", that the
love suffers everything that the love can everything, that a woman without a
man was an incomplete human being, that part of what made you a woman was to
build a home, that after finishing it was the end of the world and probably the
culprit of the separation had been you.
What I can't understand is why they get so angry because they write
songs about their exes and the ability they have to leave them and reinvent
themselves, according to a study carried out (2017) by the University of Malaga
in Spain, they found that 60% of the songs talk about romantic love, according to
that we all have the same right (hopefully having the talent) to make music
about our love experiences. However, what is said in a low voice about the
women who compose about getting over a relationship and loving themselves more
than the man they are with, is that they are insufferable and that they have
not been able to leave it behind. What I see is a person who is exposing why a
relationship is no longer working (all valid reasons) and who prefers their
mental/emotional stability to continuing to be unhappy, call me crazy, but I
think that is what we should all aim for.
In the study carried out in 2017, they also observed that "it is
evident how the majority space of patient victim of heartbreak or infidelity
and insult is reserved for women for those who opt for a hedonistic vision of
relationships," according to that old school. They classify us into two
categories, the destroyed woman selflessly suffering for a relationship that
didn't work (for whatever reasons, including infidelity) waiting for the man to
save her from her anguish because without him life loses all meaning or a woman
of "distracted morality" because she lives her sexuality freely.
Sexism ends up being the judge of our value as women or you "belong"
to a man or you are a b¡tch , our freedom, judgment or happiness doesn't
matter. I would add one more category, don't even think about not wanting to
have a partner, a single woman is synonymous with failure and social shame.
Luckily, things are changing and for the better, according to the 2021
Analysis of Feminism in Reggaeton from the University of La Laguna, women are
gradually establishing a clear feminist position with respect to traditional
reggaeton, in which they refuse to to be treated as mere disposable objects or
objects of desire, taking charge of her life, prioritizing her self-esteem,
owning her body/sexuality and in which the presence or absence of a man doesn't
tragically affect her life or her success professional. One of the outstanding
artists in this new type of reggaeton is Colombian Karol G, who has released
multiple hits where she talks about feminine power, self-esteem,
emotional/financial independence, sexual freedom, and resilience. I am glad to
know that the new generations can listen to lyrics composed by women whose
versions allow us to see ourselves as strong and independent human beings, in
which they can finally express our capacity, determination and vindicate
ourselves as autonomous and free human beings.
Have a great day ladies! 💜 A hug from this tropical paradise called Colombia.
References:
-Estrategias machistas del amor romántico: lo que
dicen las canciones. 2021. Cubero, Ashley; Sancho, Génesis; Gónzalez, Priscila.
Revista Musicarte.
-Análisis del feminismo en el reguetón. Medina
Victoria. 2021. Universidad de Laguna.
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