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It's rare to find in the media publications about the worries or life situations that people in their 30s can face, it's as if there is a kind of leap in space and time between the 20s and the 40s, so I did a brief search on the internet and according to the vast majority of publications this is supposed to be the happiest time of our lives, apparently because we will have financial and emotional stability... Sorry, what?
In addition to the aforementioned, there is a lot of publications about how the 30s will make your skin flaccid, dry, wrinkles will appear on you, your knees and back will begin to fail and you will gradually become a being that is no longer adapted for night life. Something like: you will have the money to have fun but your body will not let you enjoy it to the fullest. And it seems that it all comes down to how your appearance is affected by the passage of time.
If we start to think before you were successful if at 30 you already had children, you were married and you had already mortgaged your soul to buy a house (and let's not forget the car parked in our garage paying 60 installments), it turns out that now the stick is even higher since, you should also have a postgraduate degree, have traveled the world, speak another language, have your own business, an enviable body (obviously you don't show your age) and enough money to regularly publish the life of luxury that you should be able to afford, my question to all these standards is: What is on the minds of those who have not followed the status quo and have taken alternative routes or been forced to take them?
In my case, I'm deeply happy not to be responsible for another life, I have never wanted to have children and at 30 years old I'm still developing my character hahaha, seriously speaking I'm still not the person I dream of (and that doesn't have much to do with what they put in our heads since we were taught to compete as children), so to be very honest with myself I am not ready to have the puppy of my dreams yet. There are people who always had the idea of starting a family and they have done it wonderfully, however, I don't have what it takes to have a conventional home, for example self-sacrifice and dedication to others, one of my concerns today is to lower the dose of my medicine to control my anxiety and improve my emotional stability.
I can't imagine having to divide my time and peace of mind between the responsibilities of the children, life with my partner and my interests (I wouldn't have enought time, something must be half done or my rest would probably be affected in order to perform). I think we should all have a pretty honest talk with ourselves and establish what we really want in our life, what can bring us some happiness and make the most conscious and coherent decisions to achieve our dreams, and if at 30 you want to restructure and do changes, make them afraid but do them, because you still have time to write or rewrite the life you want.
It must be made clear that there are those of us over 30 who apparently have no f*cking idea what we are doing with our lives, that is, we have a plan but we are not subject to the new guidelines "imposed" by society and what makes them think to those who have achieved a "stable and consistent" life that we are wandering through life. I have reached the point in my existence where I don't want to feel comfortable on a podium showing others what I have achieved or feel in that race in which I have to force myself to achieve things to fit in somewhere, because I am aware that Not all of us have the same opportunities and I don't want to compare myself in any way with others (and I understand that everyone is free to post what they want on their social networks, but I take great care of what I post and what I consume on social networks). I go at my own pace, valuing and treasuring the things that I have been achieving along the way, without stopping dreaming or wanting to be better than before.
Whenever people make me a list of things they have done in their lives, I congratulate them and ask them at the end: are you happy? Unfortunately, many have not been clear about the answer. And I think that this is what we must be very attentive to, not to complete the list because it is supposed to be like this at 30, things must be done that bring us peace of mind and fill our hearts, that the things we do Let's do it with love, reinventing ourselves as many times as necessary along the way, a path that we have decided to walk.
Books: Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?- Philip K. Dick, 70/285.
-Mirror work- Louise Hay, 115.
I hope you have a great week. A big hug from this tropical paradise called Colombia.
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